A Dad’s Perspective on Raising His Daughter
With Father’s Day around the corner, we wanted a dad’s parenting perspective. The following book review is by one of our Kolcraft Dads, Pete Collins.
When my wife and I found out that we were having a baby girl, I’m not sure if my first feeling was happiness or shock, but I’m sure that my face expressed that “glazed-over” look usually reserved for teenagers. My friends with sons offered congratulations and wished me well in my future life filled with pink. My friends with daughters, however, looked at me with wry smiles and sympathetic eyes, as if they knew I was heading on a paddle-less voyage up a creek.
I had been aware of the concept of “Daddy’s Little Girl”, and knew that fathers and daughters had a special bond, but it was not until I received the book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, by Dr. Meg Meeker, that I realized the importance of the father-daughter relationship.
Through her experience counseling teens and parents, and by providing poignant examples to illustrate her points, Dr. Meeker outlines the very specific areas of development where fathers are necessary to provide guidance and influence on their daughter’s lives. Additionally, and most importantly for me, the book provided insight into the characteristics and behavior young girls NEED and EXPECT from their father. The explanation of how fathers’ actions are viewed and interpreted by daughters gave me a unique insight that I would never have known, and which I believe will help me to send the right message and be the figure of stability that my daughter will need throughout her life.
By detailing and explaining daughters’ needs and how fathers’ actions affect daughters throughout their lives, I believe that Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters is the paddle I will need to help me navigate my relationship with my new daughter.
Pete Collins lives in Chicago with his wife and soon-to-be born baby girl.