How To Teach Your Child Gift Manners

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We all have been to a child’s birthday party when the child opens a birthday present and exclaims, “I don’t like this.” We simultaneously cringe and breathe a sign of relief knowing the parents are mortified, but at least it isn’t our child – at least not yet. With some simple prep before the birthday party, you can avoid these situations while teaching your child basic manners.

The “why” – Explain to your child that everyone is coming to the party to celebrate her birthday because they love her. Tell her how special that is and that you want everyone to realize how much she appreciates that.

Not on the list – Your child most likely will receive gifts he didn’t ask for. Let him know that people pick out gifts because they think he will like them even if he didn’t ask for it. Explain that a simple “This looks fun!” is an appropriate response and will make the gift giver feel special. He might be surprised because it might turn out to be his favorite gift.

Double Take – Your child opens up the newest American Doll and realizes she already has it. Prep her to say a generous, “Thank you!” and let her know you can always exchange it later.

Gloating – Your son received the new video game he has been wanting since it hit the shelves. He teases the other kids that now he has it and they don’t. Remind him before the party how important sharing is and that a good sport (and grateful person) doesn’t hold a gift over the other guests’ heads.

With little prep you can remind your child about good manners of gratitude and avoid some embarrassing moments that would make you and Ms. Manners blush!

17 Responses to “How To Teach Your Child Gift Manners”

  1. Chelle January 26, 2011 at 11:57 am #

    Those are all great things to encourage children. So many times wrong things aresaid and come across poorly. Sometimes kids just need some ecouraging words to help them better understand. 🙂

  2. jenn January 26, 2011 at 5:29 pm #

    what a great post. i dont think enough children get a lesson on this subject and ive seen some pretty poor manners, so thank you

  3. Cinella January 26, 2011 at 8:06 pm #

    Awesome, just what I needed. We have a birthday coming up.

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  5. MichelleH January 27, 2011 at 11:29 am #

    Agreed Chelle!

  6. MichelleH January 27, 2011 at 11:29 am #

    You are very welcome Jenn! Thanks for reading our Kolcraft baby Matters blog 🙂

  7. Cassandra January 27, 2011 at 1:25 pm #

    Thank you for the great advice and information on this topic! I know some other parents that would definitely benefit from these tips when they get frustrated. 🙂

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  10. amy pugmire January 27, 2011 at 2:22 pm #

    wow! thanks for the great tips. I will have to use these.

  11. Rachel B January 27, 2011 at 9:25 pm #

    I love this- we are just doing this with my 2 year old daughter now. Thank you!

  12. Mary January 27, 2011 at 9:34 pm #

    Perfect timing as we approach my daughter’s 5th birthday!

  13. Katie Jones January 29, 2011 at 11:11 am #

    These are all great ideas! Teaching children to have good manners when opening gifts – especially if it is a gift they don’t think they’ll like – is so tough! Love all these tips.

  14. C's Mommy January 29, 2011 at 2:25 pm #

    some great tips!

  15. MichelleH January 31, 2011 at 9:44 am #

    Thank you Katie! Glad you found it helpful.

  16. MichelleH January 31, 2011 at 9:53 am #

    Happy birthday to your daughter Mary. Hope it is a wonderful day for your family!

  17. MichelleH January 31, 2011 at 9:53 am #

    Yeah for you Rachel. It’s never too early to teach good manners!